I Gave My Husband 25% of My Invisible Workload Using 3 Steps

I Gave My Husband 25% of My Invisible Workload Using 3 Steps Have you finished yur holiday shopping? Whether youre the type who has everything purchased and wrapped before Thanksgiving or youre waiting until the post-New Years clearances, chances are that you not your lebensabschnittsgefhrte were the one to pore over lists and spend hours selecting the perfect presents for coworkers, family, and friends. This pressure, it turns out, is not limited to the gift-giving season but actually surrounds womens everyday routines. Before we even brave the world outside of our bed covers and begin the doing, our minds race perpetually with agenda items to check off, sticky notes to scribble, and reminders to store for later. This mental marathon, friends, is your invisible workload.The invisible workload demands that women always be liable for remembering, and in many cases performing, the bulk of the intellectual, cognitive, and emotional work of childcare and household maintenance. Paper tow els have to be added to the Target run, our daughter needs a ride to ballet lessons on Thursday, the electric bill is due next week, and oh favors for the preschool holiday party need to be delivered. The list is endless, and women are disproportionately responsible for managing and completing all of these tasks. Despite what your contributions are outside of the home, consider the mental load that you bear and how you and your partner might restructure your household to distribute the roles more fairly. Heres how I did it1. Determine just how much of the invisible work youd like to offload. My method for offloading was straightforward I decided that because I earn 25% of our familys income, it seemed reasonable that my husband would assume 25% of the household tasks I manage. 2. Hand over the tasks that are both time-consuming and stress-inducing for you.Losing myself on Pinterest until I find recipes for the weeks five meals is, on the best Sundays, completely overwhelming. I ca nt seem to accommodate a picky toddler and a hungry husband, all while efficiently crafting a fiscally responsible grocery list. I passed off the all too taxing planning and maintained my love for cooking whatever my husband chooses3. Play to your partners strengths by giving him complete reign over an area at which he excels. For my husband, this wheelhouse is the library. bedrngnis only does he make the trip to pick up books for the entire family, he also chooses them. Yes, you read correctly, my husband selects the novels I read, the business books I study, and the autobiographies I admire. Its fun to see what hes picked out for me and my daughter, and the stress of what to borrow next is completely gone.If the concept of the invisible workload is one that resonates with you as you reflect upon your familys dynamic, ponder how you might reapportion the various household and parenting obligations so that you and your partner shoulder the weight as a team. Determine an amount to t ransfer to your partner that you both find appropriate and fair, regardless of the income percentage each of you contributes. Start at the intersection of time and stress for you and hand over the corresponding tasks. Beyond simply abandoning the most bothersome responsibilities, empower your partner by purposely choosing certain jobs for him based on his interests and skills. And above all, be sure to approach the division of chores without a scoreboard mentality, but rather share the load in a way that is the most beneficial for your own family and does not foster resentment between partners. If the system doesnt work for one of you, it wont work for anyone__Hi, there Im Allie Hofer,an HR professional and work-life balance enthusiast. More officially, Im a Professional in philanthropisch Resources (PHR), Society of Human Resource Management Certified Professional (SHRM-CP), and Recruiter Academy Certified Recruiter (RACR).After having my first child, I opted out of the traditiona l office setting to work from home. Since then, I have been consulting with organizations in the public and private sectors to support the Human Resources function in recruiting, compensation, training and development, and performance management.I started Office Hours to offer a boutique HR solution for small and medium-sized businesses and to help candidates navigate and completely own their career paths.